Why the Future will be Differently Wired Deborah Reber | TEDxAmsterdam

Deborah Reber  [bio] New York Times bestselling author and the Founder of TiLT Parenting

Behind every kid who is differently wired is likely to stand one or more frustrated, isolated, perhaps even burnt out‐feeling adult. We’re everywhere, but often feel completely isolated raising our neurologically atypical kids. In this practical and actioable talk, TiLT Parenting founder Debbie Reber shares ten powerful “tilts,” a.k.a. practical ideas to help parents shift their thinking and actions in a way that will help them feel more confidence and peaceful about their everyday reality, create a stronger family dynamic, and give their extraordinary children what they need to thrive.

How to Find Peace of Mind When Preparing for a New Baby

Many parents plan, hope, and dream of having a baby for months and even years. But when the time comes and you’re faced with getting your home and life ready, it can feel like a daunting task. If you’re a soon-to-be parent and you also have a disability, you may need to make some adaptations to your home and gear so that caring for your little one fits your needs.

Preparing Your House

A baby is small, but their arrival has a pretty big impact on your home. Start now by preparing the gear and baby’s room and play spaces. A comprehensive baby gear list can be overwhelming, so consult a good list while also keeping in mind your own lifestyle, and using it as a general guide rather than a list of absolute necessities. If you have a physical disability, some equipment may need to be adapted, but the good news is that there are many adaptive technologies out there today to make independent parenting easier than ever. Consult DisabledParents.org for their “Must-Have” adaptive gear options for different needs.

To prepare the best you can, think about your abilities and what kind of tools would help make the daily tasks of parenting easier. A study in The American Journal of Occupational Therapy reported that mothers with physical disabilities found night care, carrying their baby, and bathing to be their biggest challenges. The researchers suggest that adaptive furniture to meet these needs and carriers like a sling to “wear” your baby are some of the best ways parents can do these tasks independently.

Along with setting up your home and prepping equipment, baby-proofing for safety is essential. Some of the biggest household safety hazards are cleaning chemicals and medicine. Move any of these hazards to cabinets out of baby’s reach, or use baby-proofing locks on cabinets. Parents recommends magnetic locks because they’re easy to use and don’t run the risk of pinched fingers. Another hazard to little ones is the risk of large furniture and televisions falling on them, especially once they start pulling up and toddling. You can find special straps that make it easy to secure these. This is also a great time to check all smoke and carbon monoxide detectors and replace batteries, and make sure you have fire extinguishers throughout the house that are easy to access.

Preparing for the First Days

Expectant parents often go into nesting mode, and it’s as practical as it is emotional to prep your home and life for the early days with baby. Take the time to get baby’s clothes and blankets washed and put away so everything is ready. The immediate postpartum period is a huge adjustment and can be exhausting, so plan ahead by making and freezing meals. If any family members or friends will be coming to help, go ahead and get the guest room ready for their arrival. If you have someone close to you who you can count on, don’t be afraid to ask for help. No matter how well prepared you are, bringing home a baby is an enormous change for everyone, and the old saying, “It takes a village to raise a child” is still true!

Preparing Financially

Your home isn’t the only thing you need to prepare for baby. Start now to prepare your budget for the immediate expenses of baby’s needs and for their future. NerdWallet is a great resource for a detailed list of financial to-do’s before and after baby’s arrival. For a parent with a disability, if you receive Social Security disability benefits, your baby may be eligible to receive them too, so look into those resources.

Preparing your home and life for this big adjustment doesn’t have to be scary. Start with these resources now to get your home and life ready, and don’t be afraid to reach out for help, so you will be well-prepared to welcome baby with joy and peace of mind.

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When Advocating Becomes Bullying in the Autism Community

When bullying comes into our lives as if we didn’t have enough to worry about it is not always easy but what this mother says is something to think about.
We all may have said or done something that borders on the respect of others and we should all be very considerate about the feelings of others as we would like them to be considerate about our feelings.

Take a look at Erin’s post and see if you would agree.

Autism Interventions: ABA vs. Floortime

This article is a mothers perspective of Autism Intervention and very interesting to read.

ABA vs. Floortime

Here she describes her viewpoint about the fact that you will be overwhelmed when your child is suddenly diagnosed with autism and what you can do to help. She describes the traditional ABA model but also the DIR Floortime® approach. As it turns out both methods combined in the right way have been helping her child with great success.

Floortime for Parents



Registration forms
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Or contact Pam Rogers:

$120 for one person, $160 for a
family including caregivers (not therapists).

For course information contact the instructor:

Sarah Measures:


Astra Foundation is pleased to offer the workshop, Floortime®  for Parents co –sponsored by Roswitha Wilner, Cristen Sassi.

Friday evenings 6:00 to 9:00 pm and
Saturday mornings 9:00 to 12:00.
April 1st/2nd
May 6th/7th
June 3rd/4th

2 individualized family coaching times with your child: times to be determined on Saturday pm

The Therapy Collaborative
150 Waterman St.
Providence, RI  02906

In this Floortime®  workshop, you will learn DIR® techniques developed by Stanley Greenspan, MD and Serena Wieder, PhD. DIR® focuses on the child-parent (or caregiver) relationship as the heart of learning and development.  You will learn how to play with your child to better support his/her development and emotional growth.  The individualized family mentoring sessions tightly couple theory and practice to help you master specific skills to help your child. This class is suitable for parents of children ages 2 to 10, with issues of behavior, regulation, communication or developmental delays.

We will discuss child development and watch videotapes of child play to understand how Floortime®  may help your child:

  • Improve attention and regulation.
  • Engage with you more strongly.
  • Be more calm and organized.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Play with more complexity.
  • Better understand themselves and others.